The Family Induction
Now before I start, due to many of my past relationships not lasting long enough to meet parents, or having a fiance who not only is overseas but so is his family, my experience with meeting the "boyfriends family" is limited.
However this was about to change.....
First of all a little history.
Anthony and I met in January through the Internet. I actually started chatting to him when I was down home. Met in person when came back at Espressoholic, and went out for dinner and to Narnia. A pleasant evening, and it went from there. Six months later, its all good, really really good :) The future looks rosey in many different ways.
However I digress.
On Sunday, I was invited to Ant's brothers birthday lunch. Now I have met bits of his family before, and many of them at a wake. I have got to know his Mum most of all, mainly as he lives at home. I like her, she always has me feel welcome, included me in things, and is easy to talk to, and has always seemed interested in what I have to say, even though many a time I rant on (no comments needed there) From that you can see I have got past the shyness part with her :)But this was sort of different as I was partaking in a family event. I felt privileged.
Arrived at bro's house for a few drinks beforehand. Here I re-met his bro, his partner, old family friends, his niece and nephew, and the aunt (the character that every family has).
A few drinks had, didnt say much, my shyness came out a bit. It can be hard when everyone else knows each other. But all very friendly, and once the kids pointed out I didnt say much, I started talking more.
Things to note from this part:
I have the same music taste as an 8 and 10 year old.
The aunt called me "girlfriend"
I am still allergic to the kitten
Wall mounted TVs are cool
I still feel I am up with what is cool with kids
There were more smoking adults than not - had not experienced that for a while, I went outside at points to socialise!
Then on to Tulsi...yum!
Arrived at Tulsi in Petone, booking for 12. A lot of introductions, and was introduced by Anthony as his partner. While I realise this to be true, I hadnt heard it before - kind of cool.
Now I hadnt been around younger children for a while - so forgot how they act in more adult situations. The niece was lovely trying to be like the big adults and joining in conversation. The nephew while pretty cool, didnt like the fact the birthday celebration wasnt all about him. He was quickly bored and wanted to go home. But once he was told about the water fountain outside, his attention was grasped for about 20 minutes and he was off :) Another boy was there, Jordy who was cool (12) and thought that ACDC was the coolest band in the world. He also liked Linkin Park too, so went up on my cool list.
Lunch was fab. Lots of wine to be had, and hiding the bottles to avoid the corkage costs :) Everyone tries to do it, funny part was it was the neice that suggested how to do it.
The funniest part at this point was when the Aunt, who by this time was well enjoying the vino, decided to make her own doggy bag - with serviettes and a poppadom. Now if it was dry that would be fine, but it was used to put her left over curry into her handbag. The table was in fits of laughter. Again good times, and was made very welcome. Anthony was asked, is Cass your girlfriend? They seemed alright with the fact I was.
Back to bro's for drinks
A lot of general chit chat, more drinks, kids getting more restless, however the power of the playstation did help things. Conversation became a little more r-rated amongst adults. There was a family arguement which I quite happily sat back from and observed. Coming from a small family this was something I rarely saw. Things were resolved although some disagreements between the adults over the argument......most people probably have had this happen at their own family functions.
At the end of the night, we returned home and was nicely said to me by Anthony - Welcome to the family...warm fuzzies :) Its nice to be accepted into an already very close family, and know that they are genuine about it. Anthony told me at one point that he was told to hold onto me, and I have approval from his mum too...that means a lot also.
Im very content with things right now.
However this was about to change.....
First of all a little history.
Anthony and I met in January through the Internet. I actually started chatting to him when I was down home. Met in person when came back at Espressoholic, and went out for dinner and to Narnia. A pleasant evening, and it went from there. Six months later, its all good, really really good :) The future looks rosey in many different ways.
However I digress.
On Sunday, I was invited to Ant's brothers birthday lunch. Now I have met bits of his family before, and many of them at a wake. I have got to know his Mum most of all, mainly as he lives at home. I like her, she always has me feel welcome, included me in things, and is easy to talk to, and has always seemed interested in what I have to say, even though many a time I rant on (no comments needed there) From that you can see I have got past the shyness part with her :)But this was sort of different as I was partaking in a family event. I felt privileged.
Arrived at bro's house for a few drinks beforehand. Here I re-met his bro, his partner, old family friends, his niece and nephew, and the aunt (the character that every family has).
A few drinks had, didnt say much, my shyness came out a bit. It can be hard when everyone else knows each other. But all very friendly, and once the kids pointed out I didnt say much, I started talking more.
Things to note from this part:
I have the same music taste as an 8 and 10 year old.
The aunt called me "girlfriend"
I am still allergic to the kitten
Wall mounted TVs are cool
I still feel I am up with what is cool with kids
There were more smoking adults than not - had not experienced that for a while, I went outside at points to socialise!
Then on to Tulsi...yum!
Arrived at Tulsi in Petone, booking for 12. A lot of introductions, and was introduced by Anthony as his partner. While I realise this to be true, I hadnt heard it before - kind of cool.
Now I hadnt been around younger children for a while - so forgot how they act in more adult situations. The niece was lovely trying to be like the big adults and joining in conversation. The nephew while pretty cool, didnt like the fact the birthday celebration wasnt all about him. He was quickly bored and wanted to go home. But once he was told about the water fountain outside, his attention was grasped for about 20 minutes and he was off :) Another boy was there, Jordy who was cool (12) and thought that ACDC was the coolest band in the world. He also liked Linkin Park too, so went up on my cool list.
Lunch was fab. Lots of wine to be had, and hiding the bottles to avoid the corkage costs :) Everyone tries to do it, funny part was it was the neice that suggested how to do it.
The funniest part at this point was when the Aunt, who by this time was well enjoying the vino, decided to make her own doggy bag - with serviettes and a poppadom. Now if it was dry that would be fine, but it was used to put her left over curry into her handbag. The table was in fits of laughter. Again good times, and was made very welcome. Anthony was asked, is Cass your girlfriend? They seemed alright with the fact I was.
Back to bro's for drinks
A lot of general chit chat, more drinks, kids getting more restless, however the power of the playstation did help things. Conversation became a little more r-rated amongst adults. There was a family arguement which I quite happily sat back from and observed. Coming from a small family this was something I rarely saw. Things were resolved although some disagreements between the adults over the argument......most people probably have had this happen at their own family functions.
At the end of the night, we returned home and was nicely said to me by Anthony - Welcome to the family...warm fuzzies :) Its nice to be accepted into an already very close family, and know that they are genuine about it. Anthony told me at one point that he was told to hold onto me, and I have approval from his mum too...that means a lot also.
Im very content with things right now.
posted by bitemeandsmile @ 10:04 PM
1 Comments:
At 10:57 PM,
Not Kate said…
Yay you! It's good to be Cassie. Wait til the kids start calling you 'Aunt Cassie'.
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